Time flies, doesn’t it? Looks like posted extra just lately, however alas, nearly two weeks!
Issues are kinda secure proper now. I suppose.
It’s laborious to definitively say that they’re as a result of I so traumatized by the occasions of the final couple of months. It’s laborious to purchase into the truth that there hasn’t been an eruption in a few weeks.
I’ve been making an attempt to renew regular actions, nevertheless it’s laborious, My anxiousness is excessive. My despair is darkish. I’m exhausted, all the time exhausted. I escape in hives on daily basis as a result of I’m so burdened.
Just a few posts in the past a follower inboxed me to recommend trying into a selected psychological well being difficulty. On the time, I simply couldn’t as a result of I used to be so overwhelmed. Ha! I’m nonetheless overwhelmed, nevertheless it stored swirling at the back of my thoughts. At the start of final week, one other psychological well being supplier advised the identical potential analysis, and so just like the nerd I’m, I bought to studying.
I devoured web sites, podcasts, Instagram, and TikTok accounts. I joined a web based FB group for folks. I felt like this info was so useful in making an attempt to know what was occurring with my daughter. I consulted with Hope’s supplier, who mentioned, yeah, she meets the factors, however he wasn’t able to diagnose.

Oh, okay. I imply, I get it however assist me out right here dude.
In any case, I do know that Hope would reject the analysis anyway, so….yeah.
As for me, I’m continuing with approaches which are in keeping with what I’ve learn. It’s laborious, however I wanted some sort of framework to maneuver ahead. I’m not *trying* to pathologize my daughter; I’m simply actually making an attempt to offer myself some scaffolding to assist me meet her present wants. And after a few months of feeling utterly misplaced, details about a doable analysis looks like a gotdamn GPS appeared out of skinny air.
Hope has been going via loads. She’s actually emotional. She often does issues to attempt to provoke me (To date I’ve efficiently stored my cool), however principally she’s simply shifting the best way she normally does. After all, all that had me involved earlier than the summer season began. I’m sadly not new to this; I’m true to this.
My household has so many questions:
Why are you sitting down together with her to make month-to-month targets? (As a result of I don’t have a deathwish.)
Ought to she actually go go to her organic household? (I’ve made the first contact absolutely conscious of the present scenario; we’re on the identical web page and Hope wants all of the love and help she will be able to get proper now.)
Why doesn’t she have a job? (As a result of she doesn’t.)
Why isn’t she at school? (As a result of she isn’t.)

It’s actually my least favourite half about this complete factor. I instructed my peeps proper on the outset, there have been going to be choices that you simply received’t agree with, choices that appear powerful or harsh, and I don’t wish to hear your ideas on them since you ain’t dwelling 24-7 on this right here home. It’s identical to biting right into a cake that seems to be drizzled with chocolate, however upon tasting you notice it’s actually motor oil. Ugh. Simply say you’re keen on us and ship love and chocolate with out all of the questions.
However, right here we’re. I’m simply making an attempt to be as gracious as doable as a result of with out them I’d crumble. So, I take the nice with the questioning and make it work.
I don’t know what is going to occur subsequent. I nonetheless am reeling from the trauma of all of it. My coronary heart hurts as a result of I’ve new information of what Hope’s thought processes underpin her conduct: It’s worry. It’s all the time been worry. It would all the time be worry. I’m consumed with worry as effectively. I’m simply hopeful that sooner or later I can steer us in the direction of a path that provides us extra help.
For now I’m counting breaths and simply making an attempt to push ahead.