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To My Buddies Who Voted for Trump & Declare They Aren’t Racist

I do know lots of people who say they like Donald Trump as a result of “he says it like it’s” he’s not afraid of not being “politically appropriate” or offending anybody. So I’m hoping the identical individuals who really feel that approach received’t take offense to what I’m about to say. That is coming from a spot of affection and a craving to assist facilitate understanding and perhaps begin a dialogue.

I usually discover myself positioned proper smack in the midst of quite a lot of divisive subjects. Being a girl, a black girl… A black girl who occurs to be Mormon (I’m like Obama, Hillary and Romney wrapped into one)–and members of my faith usually have extraordinarily conservative social opinions. I lived in Utah for 4 years however earlier than that, I used to be raised within the south (Georgia). There I used to be known as a nigger umm… A number of occasions. And now residing in Texas (although fortunately Austin–It may very well be worse) I nonetheless hear the phrase flying round every now and then in surprising locations. Oh, and on high of all that I’m married to a white cop. For sure, I’ve undoubtedly had fairly the combo of buddies and lived in and skilled various communities.

This is what it's like to raise a multiracial family in a post- Trump era.

I’ve discovered to hear, see, and attempt to perceive completely different viewpoints. I can perceive why my non secular buddies are so passionately anti-abortion. I can perceive why my homosexual buddies are damage when others communicate out towards their marriage. Interracial marriages solely turned authorized in all 50 states lower than 50 years in the past (and my church has disapproved in much more latest historical past). There are lots of people nonetheless alive on this earth at present who really feel my marriage is unsuitable so yea–Solidarity.

All of that mentioned. I do know I nonetheless have quite a lot of work to do. I’m not good and I nonetheless have quite a lot of understanding to realize. However the one factor I’ll by no means ever perceive.–The one factor I’ll by no means ever assist is hate.

We, being you and I. In case you are a daily customer to my weblog I do know we at the very least agree on that. I additionally suppose it’s fairly unhealthy to name somebody a racist simply because they don’t agree with you. That mentioned, there are different issues you’ll be able to say or do to set off my racist crimson alert.

I’ve had a number of conversations with buddies over the past couple of days which have the thesis of “I voted for Trump however I’m not a racist, a bigot or a homophobe.”

I can perceive why individuals are on the protection as a result of there are quite a lot of harsh phrases and ugly memes going round proper now. Perhaps you scroll by means of your newsfeed and see one thing about Trump voters being bigots and suppose “however that’s not me!” To that, I say settle down. Take a deep breath and don’t take it personally (until somebody is immediately calling you out, however I’ll get to that in a second).

As my husband blocks visitors so protestors can safely march in solidarity towards Trump in the midst of the roadway, many yell and name him a racist cop. We snigger about that.

I do know a few of you’re looking at me and saying: “No Jennifer, I imply I had somebody I believed was a good friend flat out name me a racist as a result of I voted for Trump!”

Okay, nicely typically that occurs too. However might I ask what conversations occurred earlier than it escalated so far? Had been you defending Trump and his remarks about minorities? Do you suppose what he mentioned was unsuitable? Do you even care? Whenever you have been explaining the the reason why you voted for Trump did you fail to say your distaste for his generalizing Mexicans as rapists and drug sellers? In fact, you don’t owe your clarification to anybody, I’m simply attempting to assist clarify why your apathetic perspective might come throughout as acceptance, and why acceptance of this isn’t okay.

No, I’m not speaking in regards to the peaceable protests which are a protected by the structure. No, I’m not even speaking in regards to the riots–Although I think about you’re nicely conscious of these. I’m speaking in regards to the center college children who’re chanting “Construct that wall” within the cafeteria round their Latino classmates who’re in tears. I’m speaking about racial slurs being written on black individuals’s vehicles. I’m speaking about minorities being threatened by white individuals within the title of “yea we received!” I’m speaking in regards to the KKK planning a celebratory gathering. I’m speaking about a few of these horrible issues that occurred the day after Trump was elected president.

Did you not find out about this? If not, that’s a part of the issue. See, for minorities–For me, this actually isn’t something new. I’m nicely conscious that racism is alive and nicely at present. We dwell it. In the event you haven’t seen you most likely aren’t paying consideration. However after I examine these incidents and I don’t see my buddies who say they voted for him saying that’s unsuitable, I ponder in the event that they suppose that’s proper. Why share sarcastic memes about violent protestors however nothing in regards to the violent hate crimes?

Forgive me if I appear to be overreacting however these are severe emotional triggers for me. And it doesn’t appear logical, however now after I stroll to the mailbox with my children my pulse quickens when a lifted pickup truck passes by. These are severe points going through individuals proper now. Points I take into consideration simply present as a household. And I don’t even put on a hijab or run the chance of getting household being deported. I think about it should really feel even worse for my Muslim and Mexican buddies.

Sadly, electing somebody regardless of their very outspokenly skewed views of Muslims, Mexicans, Latinos, Blacks, individuals with disabilities and let’s not neglect girls, can lead some individuals to consider that mind-set is suitable.

Not nearly probably of discriminatory insurance policies that could be coming sooner or later, however due to the hateful actions from these very glad in regards to the election outcomes. As a result of racist individuals now suppose it’s okay to return out of hiding and say what they actually suppose.

I do know you don’t need to be related to that crowd. I don’t need you to both. To agree with Trump politically is one factor, however if you don’t stand towards the racist issues which are coming from this, or the hurtful issues he mentioned himself, then I’m left questioning if you agree with them.

So if you happen to say you aren’t racist, that you don’t agree with the issues Trump has mentioned about minorities or Muslims. Say it! Take a stand. Stand as much as racism. Don’t enable it, don’t condone it, communicate towards it. I do know it’s scary, I do know it’s most likely outdoors of your consolation degree and the kind of stuff you usually discuss, however we will’t-do it alone. We’d like you to assist bridge the divide.

For me… Simply having somebody acknowledge my emotions goes a good distance. I’ve two buddies who’ve just lately reached out to me and mentioned how they take a look at the world otherwise. How after they’re out and see individuals donning Accomplice flags they marvel how that encounter may go in the event that they have been Black. Simply that acknowledgment of “Hey, racism sucks, I’m sorry you must cope with this,” goes a good distance… for me at the very least. I suppose I’m straightforward to please.

So might I counsel we use this awkward interval after an election the place we’re giving our buddies and kin the aspect eye to additionally be taught just a little extra about one another?

Go searching at your circle of buddies. How various are they? Do you could have buddies who voted for the opposite man (or gal)? Do you could have buddies who follow completely different religions? Buddies of various races? Do you could have homosexual buddies? If your entire buddies look and/or suppose such as you do, it could be time to ask your self why and take into account how your homogenous circle may have an effect on your views of the world.

I’m not going to name you a racist since you voted for Trump. However your actions now will communicate a lot louder than your vote.

This is what it's like to raise a multiracial family in a post Trump era.

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