There has by no means been a time in my life the place I felt extra assured about myself on the earth than now. Which may be puzzling to fathom, contemplating the fixed berating and belittling of Black girls that goes unchecked in each facet our numerous cultures and western society. The time of protesting and activism has shifted to different susceptible and generally marginalized Brown and different individuals of shade.
That also doesn’t cover the dearth of unity that we don’t acknowledge inside the black group for ladies. Youthful Black girls overtly converse negatively to the vulnerabilities of different extra mature girls as in the event that they don’t anticipate these experiences to be part of their story. They compete it appears for every little thing. To have the most effective home, automotive, levels, job, husband, children, breast and butt implants, even weave. You identify it! I’m not knocking any of those examples. Simply highlighting how they’ve made us poisonous inside and in the direction of each other. It’s even disappointing to see many Black males glorifying this habits.
I’ve identified what it’s to be susceptible when it was all I may see. I’ve identified energy when it was my anchor by means of all my difficulties. I’ve even criticized black girls for not accepting their very own flaws and fragility. Weaponizing their ache for their very own objective. Nonetheless, I appeared as much as black girls that wore there peace as a precious asset to their very id. We’re in an age of overstimulation that our senses are numb to the historic depth of our personal black femininity.
We wander the ocean of social acceptance, I imply social media to garner favor for our generally superficial victories. I’ve finished that too. However nothing about our present collective expertise makes me extra disturbed than this conflict inside the girls. It’s actually a conflict With-in the ladies. We’re nonetheless therapeutic from the shackles of our shared traumatic previous. All of the issues that our ancestral moms confronted, overcame and even succumbed to now not being. I see it as cycles to study and develop by means of. Granted, we’re all at completely different levels on this journey of life. Only for just a few moments , I might like to really feel the essence of Black lady that was not marred by White supremacy. Dare I say it, even Black supremacy, patriarchal and even matriarchal obligations. We aren’t our moms, grandmothers and even higher moms that got here earlier than. However we embody the essence of transformation that they delivery by means of their lifetimes.
Let’s proceed to construct from that seat of energy. I see our energy in that regard and in that area I select to remain. This seat of energy to remodel, rise above, empower, ignite and even annihilate what we see as unjust. This stays for me the best present of being a Black lady. It can by no means look the identical for every of us. All of us are usually not students, medical doctors, attorneys, actors. We don’t all maintain seats of energy in governmental areas. However even people who don’t have the world famend standing can create the modifications by means of their very own experiences remodeling their lives and the lives of these round them.
Seasons change, however this division is pushed much more now with the social media machines telling us what we have to be or belong to for acceptance of their eyes. Perhaps that is simply the ramblings of an nearly 50 years younger Black lady who’s simply fed up with the passive aggressive sentiment that I get from girls I’ve been assembly. It is also the reality of my expertise that I refuse to let change me from loving all that Black girls and Black femininity means to me. We’re dynamic, mental, horny, highly effective, comfortable, susceptible, fact tellers, enigmatic and nonetheless clear all on the identical rattling time!